What does the perfect father look like? No one knows… because we have never seen one! Even Adam, the first dad on earth, who walked with God, raised a son who murdered his brother. We should never look for, or expect, perfection in a father. But there is something every father can strive for and that is blamelessness. Being blameless is far better than perfection. A blameless father is one who makes mistakes, even big ones, but is willing, and tries, to fix them. Being blameless means we:
- Apologize when we are wrong
- We follow through with our commitments and promises
- We treat others with respect
- We honor our own mothers and fathers
- We forgive those who have wronged us
- We fix what we break
- We tell the truth
Being blameless has nothing to do with how much money we make, what boards we serve on, the size of our house, the vacations we take, or how much we volunteer. It has everything to do with being human, sometimes forgetting a ball game, sleeping through a recital, promising a fishing trip that never happened, but then, making it right.
Part of parenting involves teaching our children how to correct errors, and they learn best to correct their errors when they see us correcting our own.
Vicki and her husband Terry are the parents of eight children and were named Colorado Parents of the Year and Family of the Year, 2001. Vicki is the author of two books, many articles, former talk show host, and has appeared on numerous television and radio programs. To get your parenting questions answered, write to Vicki at email@example.com.